A favorite talking point of some self-proclaimed "autism parents" is that self-diagnosis of autism by Autistic adults isn't valid. On the surface, this seems like a somewhat reasonable position to take. After all, there are professionals who are trained in how to know whether someone is Autistic or not. What could be the harm in … Continue reading The Illogic of Expecting Autistic Adults to be #DiagnosedAutistic
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Liars are Illusions or How Gaslighting Leads to Meltdowns
All week I've been mulling over how lying (either to or about me) is one of the fastest ways for someone else to bring me to a state of meltdown. I considered why that might be the case and then came across a perceptive tweet regarding another liar, the father in the #PuppetGate play, which … Continue reading Liars are Illusions or How Gaslighting Leads to Meltdowns
Relatability – Autistic Adults and Parents
It occurred to me the other day, that allistic (non-autistic) parents mostly focus their conversations on the things that they relate to. This is also true of Autistic adults. Most people seem to focus primarily on the things that they relate most easily to, and this is logical to me. Allistic parents don't relate to … Continue reading Relatability – Autistic Adults and Parents
Some #ActuallyAutistic Advice for #ElmoMum
An #ElmoMum elaboration in three short parts. Part the first: Background Part the second: Context Part the third: Advice (with swearing) [You are here.] 3 - Advice (with swearing) Disclaimer: This is general advice and is far from a complete list. Most of it comes down to treating your child like a fully functioning Autistic … Continue reading Some #ActuallyAutistic Advice for #ElmoMum
More Context on #ElmoMum
An #ElmoMum elaboration in three short parts. The last link should be correct once the third part is posted. Part the first: Background Part the second: Context [You are here] Part the third: Advice (with swearing) (3/18/18) 2 - Context This section originally began as a Facebook post, that you can read here. One of the … Continue reading More Context on #ElmoMum
Some Background Re: #ElmoMum
An #ElmoMum elaboration in three short parts. Links should be accurate as the posts are published. Part the first: Background [You are here] Part the second: Context (3/17/18) Part the third: Advice (with swearing) (3/18/18) 1 - Background One reason I wrote my last post about evaluating books about parenting Autistic children is because, at the … Continue reading Some Background Re: #ElmoMum
Autism Parent Meeting – Tragedy, Mourning, and Divorce
I'm finally pulling my thoughts together a bit more regarding the Autism Parent Meeting I attended a while back. CW: Ableism, autism parents (usually non-Autistic parents of Autistic children who tend towards wanting to "fix" their children), tragedy rhetoric, temporary abandonment, and verbal abuse. The narrative, over all, was one of tragedy and upset. Many … Continue reading Autism Parent Meeting – Tragedy, Mourning, and Divorce
Eugenics
TW/CW: Eugenics, nazis, murder, autism parents (not the same as parents of Autistic children), cures, ableism. For multiple reasons I'm concerned about modern eugenics and how enticing it seems to be to the group of people known in the Autistic Community as "autism parents." I witnessed a disturbing amount of enthusiasm about genetic testing from … Continue reading Eugenics
The Autism Parent Group Library
Recently-ish I attended an Autism Parent Support Group Meeting. I wrote a bit about my experience in the link above and it was a difficult post to write up, but there's still so much more I have to say about that meeting. So in an effort to keep some momentum going and get through this … Continue reading The Autism Parent Group Library
So I Attended An “Autism Parent Meeting”
And I've been struggling greatly ever since in pretty much every sense of the word "struggling." I'd read and heard enough to know that the meeting wouldn't be a good place for me, but I wanted to see for myself. I attended legitimately as a parent of an Autistic child and chose not to disclose that … Continue reading So I Attended An “Autism Parent Meeting”
