Dear unnamed prominent Autistic advocate/author, I thought you were my friend. I thought I could trust you. I thought that you understood boundaries and that you were informed about trauma. Even after you verbally assaulted me with vicious lies on vacation in front of my children I protected myself by isolating from you, but I … Continue reading An Open Letter to an Unnamed Prominent Autistic Advocate/Author
It's a bit of a long saga, but this has felt absolutely magical to live through. CW: breastfeeding, miscarriage/bleeding, moving house, past trauma, lack of medical care due to finances -- mostly just brief mentions. The Lost Manuscript In November of 2008, when I decided to try National Novel Writing Month for the very first … Continue reading Manuscript Serendipity: from 2008 until 2022
Ten years ago (in January) my then-boss and still-friend told me that I should look into the possibility of being Autistic. Ten years ago (in March or so) my then-boss/still-friend sent me a link to take the Aspie Quiz and I scored quite high on the being Autistic side of things. And now it has … Continue reading Happy One Decade to Me!
Wow, it's been a while since I've posted anything! To start off, here is a brief autism disclosure story because disclosing that I'm Autistic is essential for my wellbeing when I do any sort of work outside of my house: A few years ago I was volunteering at a large event and I told a … Continue reading Volunteering, Work, and Self-Care
A favorite talking point of some folks on the internet is that self-diagnosis of autism by Autistic adults isn't valid. On the surface, this seems like a somewhat reasonable position to take. After all, there are professionals who are trained in how to know whether someone is Autistic or not. What could be the harm … Continue reading The Illogic of Expecting Autistic Adults to be #DiagnosedAutistic
My highly neurodivergent family is moving. By "my highly neurodivergent family" I mean myself, Counterpart, my girlfriend, and our combined five children. Descriptions of our neurodivergences: All but two of us are Autistic. At least five of us have ADHD and I might have that too. Haven't been evaluated for ADHD, but it seems likely. … Continue reading Autistic House Moving Pandemic Style
Words have been difficult again for a long time. In my mind I can often make the words, but then they won't come out or when they do come out it's not how I intended them to. So I've been rethinking about talking at all. The fact is that I do better when I don't … Continue reading Not Talking, Insert More Title Here
(I've been trying a new writing style lately, not sure how it's going to work, but it's been interesting!) Something big occurred to me last night. This was one of those realizations that can change paradigms. I realized that we, just like Sims, get really sad and tense and frustrated when we don’t get to … Continue reading Interests and What Playing the Sims Taught Me About their Importance
I'm here, I'm doing okay. Busy, tired, but finally somewhat shaken free of the severe depression I'd been in for goodness only knows how long. I've been writing regularly, just not here. People who weren't safe for me know about this blog and I was nervous. But somewhere along the way I stopped caring about … Continue reading Just Checking In!
And I very nearly wasn't. As it turns out, I've been pretty severely depressed for years now. My alleged friend in 2018 took full advantage of my depressed state and by the time I'd started dating my girlfriend last summer (yes, I'm married to a man and have a girlfriend -- maybe I'll write more … Continue reading I’m alive!