Wow, I've learned a lot about boundaries since 2019, when I originally started writing this post! Boundaries: the invisible fences of life. Boundaries keep everyone safe from each other. Boundaries are about what you yourself will tolerate in your life and what you will do if someone continues doing things that you've communicated clearly are … Continue reading Boundaries, Trust, and Abuse
Welcome to 2023!!!
It being the new year... has some meaning, I suppose. I've never completely understood the new year thing aside from it being a really handy placemarker for our brains to be all, "Starting over time!" I do like mental "starting over" placemarkers so there's that. And this is the best starting over time I've had … Continue reading Welcome to 2023!!!
Manuscript Serendipity: from 2008 until 2022
It's a bit of a long saga, but this has felt absolutely magical to live through. CW: breastfeeding, miscarriage/bleeding, moving house, past trauma, lack of medical care due to finances -- mostly just brief mentions. The Lost Manuscript In November of 2008, when I decided to try National Novel Writing Month for the very first … Continue reading Manuscript Serendipity: from 2008 until 2022
Happy One Decade to Me!
Ten years ago (in January) my then-boss and still-friend told me that I should look into the possibility of being Autistic. Ten years ago (in March or so) my then-boss/still-friend sent me a link to take the Aspie Quiz and I scored quite high on the being Autistic side of things. And now it has … Continue reading Happy One Decade to Me!
Volunteering, Work, and Self-Care
Wow, it's been a while since I've posted anything! To start off, here is a brief autism disclosure story because disclosing that I'm Autistic is essential for my wellbeing when I do any sort of work outside of my house: A few years ago I was volunteering at a large event and I told a … Continue reading Volunteering, Work, and Self-Care
The Illogic of Expecting Autistic Adults to be #DiagnosedAutistic
A favorite talking point of some folks on the internet is that self-diagnosis of autism by Autistic adults isn't valid. On the surface, this seems like a somewhat reasonable position to take. After all, there are professionals who are trained in how to know whether someone is Autistic or not. What could be the harm … Continue reading The Illogic of Expecting Autistic Adults to be #DiagnosedAutistic
Autistic House Moving Pandemic Style
My highly neurodivergent family is moving. By "my highly neurodivergent family" I mean myself, Counterpart, my girlfriend, and our combined five children. Descriptions of our neurodivergences: All but two of us are Autistic. At least five of us have ADHD and I might have that too. Haven't been evaluated for ADHD, but it seems likely. … Continue reading Autistic House Moving Pandemic Style
Not Talking, Insert More Title Here
Words have been difficult again for a long time. In my mind I can often make the words, but then they won't come out or when they do come out it's not how I intended them to. So I've been rethinking about talking at all. The fact is that I do better when I don't … Continue reading Not Talking, Insert More Title Here
Interests and What Playing the Sims Taught Me About their Importance
(I've been trying a new writing style lately, not sure how it's going to work, but it's been interesting!) Something big occurred to me last night. This was one of those realizations that can change paradigms. I realized that we, just like Sims, get really sad and tense and frustrated when we don’t get to … Continue reading Interests and What Playing the Sims Taught Me About their Importance
Just Checking In!
I'm here, I'm doing okay. Busy, tired, but finally somewhat shaken free of the severe depression I'd been in for goodness only knows how long. I've been writing regularly, just not here. People who weren't safe for me know about this blog and I was nervous. But somewhere along the way I stopped caring about … Continue reading Just Checking In!