A favorite talking point of some self-proclaimed "autism parents" is that self-diagnosis of autism by Autistic adults isn't valid. On the surface, this seems like a somewhat reasonable position to take. After all, there are professionals who are trained in how to know whether someone is Autistic or not. What could be the harm in … Continue reading The Illogic of Expecting Autistic Adults to be #DiagnosedAutistic
My highly neurodivergent family is moving. By "my highly neurodivergent family" I mean myself, Counterpart, my girlfriend, and our combined five children. Descriptions of our neurodivergences: All but two of us are Autistic. At least five of us have ADHD and I might have that too. Haven't been evaluated for ADHD, but it seems likely. … Continue reading Autistic House Moving Pandemic Style
Words have been difficult again for a long time. In my mind I can often make the words, but then they won't come out or when they do come out it's not how I intended them to. So I've been rethinking about talking at all. The fact is that I do better when I don't … Continue reading Not Talking, Insert More Title Here
(I've been trying a new writing style lately, not sure how it's going to work, but it's been interesting!) Something big occurred to me last night. This was one of those realizations that can change paradigms. I realized that we, just like Sims, get really sad and tense and frustrated when we don’t get to … Continue reading Interests and What Playing the Sims Taught Me About their Importance
I'm here, I'm doing okay. Busy, tired, but finally somewhat shaken free of the severe depression I'd been in for goodness only knows how long. I've been writing regularly, just not here. People who weren't safe for me know about this blog and I was nervous. But somewhere along the way I stopped caring about … Continue reading Just Checking In!
And I very nearly wasn't. As it turns out, I've been pretty severely depressed for years now. My alleged friend in 2018 took full advantage of my depressed state and by the time I'd started dating my girlfriend last summer (yes, I'm married to a man and have a girlfriend -- maybe I'll write more … Continue reading I’m alive!
Last night I rewatched the movie What About Bob? for the first time since learning I'm Autistic and deeply researching issues surrounding mental health and media representation, etc. It was interesting. And there won't be any big spoilers in here for anyone who hasn't seen it. First of all, some critiques: Bob's struggles are often … Continue reading Movie Nostalgia: What About Bob?
Today I'm reviewing Simple Autism Strategies for Home and School by Sarah Cobbe. There are many things I loved about this book, but there were just as many that I wasn't thrilled about. I'll start with the good first. My own personal philosophy of parenting and the needs of Autistic people can probably be summed … Continue reading Book Review: Simple Autism Strategies for Home and School
Today I'm reviewing An Unkindness of Ghosts by Rivers Solomon. This is an excellent book, first of all. It has solid worldbuilding, nuanced characters, deeper meanings behind daily experiences, and a quality that I can only describe as #OwnVoices authenticity. Representation is vital and it really makes a huge difference when the author is a member … Continue reading Book Review: An Unkindness of Ghosts
A brief intro before the actual review, which is below a horizontal line if you want to skip this: It's been a long time since I last really wrote a book review here. In that review of On the Edge of Gone by Corinne Duyvis I also outlined some important issues to keep in mind … Continue reading Book Review — The Kiss Quotient by Helen Hoang