Otherwise entitled: "Parents Defend Damaging Autism Parent Memoirs" Two people, so far, have directly responded to my concerns about the spread of damaging "autism parent memoirs" with the idea that Autistic adults don't want parents to "have a voice" or write at all in the first place. It's possible that some of us do want … Continue reading Respecting Autistic Children Doesn’t Sell Books (apparently)
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Work, Energy, & Autistic Inertia
CW: some internalized ableism regarding productivity and energy levels. I was (text) chatting with an Autistic friend a while back about how some of our abilities can make us appear to be far more functional to others than we actually are because we do some things that most people would find difficult to do, but … Continue reading Work, Energy, & Autistic Inertia
Vital Inconsistencies – Autistic Parenting
I have found that there's this idea in modern parenting that leads to a great deal of what I'd call "unnecessary consistencies." The idea is basically that if children do something childish or inappropriate then they'll forever be doing it. Or, conversely, that if they aren't doing something that will eventually become necessary for them … Continue reading Vital Inconsistencies – Autistic Parenting
Kittens!!!
CW: Pet death mentioned briefly About a year ago now the cats we'd had for many years died. I waited not-so-patiently all that year for my family members to be ready to get another cat. I was ready pretty much immediately to go out and adopt all the cats possible, but other family members needed … Continue reading Kittens!!!
Autism Parent Meeting – Tragedy, Mourning, and Divorce
I'm finally pulling my thoughts together a bit more regarding the Autism Parent Meeting I attended a while back. CW: Ableism, autism parents (usually non-Autistic parents of Autistic children who tend towards wanting to "fix" their children), tragedy rhetoric, temporary abandonment, and verbal abuse. The narrative, over all, was one of tragedy and upset. Many … Continue reading Autism Parent Meeting – Tragedy, Mourning, and Divorce
One Year of Blogging
I completely missed the actual day of my diagnosis anniversary earlier this month 😦 But today is the anniversary of when I started blogging here! This is going to be a recap of the year type of post, I think, looking at my life post-diagnosis. Being part of the online Autistic Community has helped my … Continue reading One Year of Blogging
Eugenics
TW/CW: Eugenics, nazis, murder, autism parents (not the same as parents of Autistic children), cures, ableism. For multiple reasons I'm concerned about modern eugenics and how enticing it seems to be to the group of people known in the Autistic Community as "autism parents." I witnessed a disturbing amount of enthusiasm about genetic testing from … Continue reading Eugenics
The Autism Parent Group Library
Recently-ish I attended an Autism Parent Support Group Meeting. I wrote a bit about my experience in the link above and it was a difficult post to write up, but there's still so much more I have to say about that meeting. So in an effort to keep some momentum going and get through this … Continue reading The Autism Parent Group Library
So I Attended An “Autism Parent Meeting”
And I've been struggling greatly ever since in pretty much every sense of the word "struggling."Â I'd read and heard enough to know that the meeting wouldn't be a good place for me, but I wanted to see for myself. I attended legitimately as a parent of an Autistic child and chose not to disclose that … Continue reading So I Attended An “Autism Parent Meeting”
Societal and Parental Expectations
I want to start off by clarifying that I am in no way defending the societal or parental expectations I outline in this post. I find them to be abhorrent, in fact, but it occurred to me that there's not much written by Autistic parents about parenting theory, social expectations, and child development (aside from … Continue reading Societal and Parental Expectations
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